This may seem a very strange comment, and from my understanding of relationship building, being resilient is having the quality of being able to be bent and stretched in all directions, whilst being able to bounce back to your original form, when the pressure is off.
We need to be able to do this to achieve what we want to achieve, especially when developing new relationships, as we are all different.
Being flexible is so important when we are in business today. Being able to see another’s point of view and recognising that the way they think is just as important to them, as your point of view is to you.
So, how resilient are you?
Being resilient comes in many forms and learning how to bounce back is very important. Dealing with hardship and being able to hold your head high and staying honest to yourself is number one.
As business owners we need to learn to be tough on the inside, to have ‘stickability’ and not fold when things get hard. We will meet all types of people so we need to be able to communicate from where they are to develop a successful relationship for the future, if we want to do so.
Learning to cope when life throws us a curveball is not always easy. Sometimes it takes experience and courage to be able to stand tall and shrug off what sometimes can hurt us deeply.
Related: “Gratitude… what is it really?”
Learning to stand up for oneself in business can be difficult. Being resilient shows people around us how we deal with adversity. It will give a very big picture of us as an individual to those who are wondering how we cope with difficult times. In business partnerships this is a very important factor when choosing someone to work with closely.
I am sure you are aware, like most of us these days in business, that there will be many ups and downs as a normal part of living. As business owners we suffer from more stresses and traumas in life than ever before. Our world is moving so fast today, and we have to be able to keep up and learn how to manage each crisis as they will come in many forms.
We see this in the extraordinary number of people struggling with depression, people who work too long hours and those who have not learned how to be resilient. For me, I was fortunate to learn this skill very early in life and will be forever grateful to my parents as it has stood me in good stead over many years.
We need to understand that we are all different. Our challenges in life are unique to us as individuals, as our experiences would not have been the same and our learnings from childhood were different too. We find that everyone has different resources for coping and how long it takes anyone to bounce back from things that are stressful to them will be a result of their past experiences.
Do not judge others on how you as an individual react to things. Be aware and acknowledge that others will react differently through their tough times and do your best to support them when and if you can. Learning how you yourself cope with the stresses and strains of life can support you to be even more resilient in the future.
Research has shown that many factors and circumstances in life promote how resilient we are. It may be a supportive and stable family, or we might just have a positive and optimistic view about life and/or a good sense of worth. The groups that we belong to make a difference, our good relationships and our sense of belonging are a large factor, and our positive relationships with people we care about is usually evident in the way we deal with crises.
Resilient people see opportunities in all things. They accept change as a part of living, by keeping things in perspective by being realistic. They maintain positive relationships, find strategies to support themselves when things are tough, and they take action to achieve what they want.
Resilient people are happy to talk and get help when they are struggling with life, and importantly, they develop an attitude of tolerance, acceptance and flexibility.
There are of course many more behaviours and factors that are common in how we cope with life. Do you understand and see where your resilience comes from?
If you are struggling and wondering how you can develop a more resilient life I would suggest that you develop a better self-awareness.
Related: “The ‘WAKE-UP’ Call”
By understanding how you cope emotionally with ‘you’ when you have a crises, and how you react to it will change your outcomes. It is more than likely a learned behaviour from your younger years that does not serve you now that you are an adult.
If you want support to gain greater self-awareness, ask me about my ‘WAKE UP! – by developing greater self awareness’ courses at http://anonpurposelife.com.au/wake-up-course/
Jennie is available for one-on-one sessions via Skype or in person.
For more information email her at firstname.lastname@example.org