The way you view the world is different from the way everyone else views it.
No matter if you are in the same family, have had similar experiences, are in business together or in a personal relationship, you will have a perspective that is different. Everyone’s perspective is just as valid and needs to be respected for that.
We often assume that our way of viewing experiences and life is the same way others view it!
Well, let me tell you that is not true.
What is right for one, is not necessarily right for another!
To communicate well, we need to be able to give the other person the benefit of doubt. Their truth is their truth. It is no more valid than your truth or belief. It is not necessary that you agree with someone else’s view. It is important though, that you accept their view as theirs, and then decide if it is or isn’t for you.
If you do not accept that the view belongs to someone else, that it is not yours or necessarily another’s truth, it may cause damage as a result if acted out. It may destroy relationships, which more than likely may have you personally lose as a consequence. This can happen all because of a knee jerk reaction or disagreement that may be counter-productive in the long term because you thought you were the only one right!
This does seem very ‘stupid’ and of course is a result of intolerance and or lack of patience and understanding of a situation, it can have the opposite of the desired effect.
We all have a choice to be tolerant or intolerant, conditional or unconditional, judging or non-judging and more. It is all a choice that every individual makes. If we go from the negative perspective, we will be the loser in the long run!
It is important that we reflect on our relationships and interactions. If not, it can be easy to throw the baby out with the bathwater, rather than consider the consequences of accepting, questioning, learning and listening.
So, I suggest that you consider this with your future interactions and reactions if you don’t already do so. Always remember that our own view of the world is only our view. It is not right or wrong for someone else, as more than likely, their view is not the same.
We all communicate differently and words mean different things to different people. I find that the emotional intelligence of the person will always show through when they react in a way that serves no one.
People who suffer from a form of mental illness will always see the world differently. If they have not been able to open their mind to allowing themselves to view another’s perspective, they will always react with a knee jerk reaction, which will always be counter-productive to all concerned.
We need to take into consideration the different thinking, sensory and personality styles of others. By understanding our own style in all of these, we can then learn how to see others from their view of the world. I find that the view people take of the world is usually the view that they take of themselves! If they are closed in mind, that will become evident, as they will be closed whilst expecting others to think and be like them. Which, of course, is impossible!
We are all individuals doing the best we can with what we know and have experienced. We are all doing the best we can with what we have. Tolerance and patience of others are the greatest gifts we can give to better outcomes when we are on different planes of thought.
Wisdom comes with age, hindsight and experience. It cannot be bought!
Some people see the world from a perspective of black and white, whilst other see the world as grey and coloured. I have found from experience that the grey/coloured people are usually open to the world around them. Black and white people tend only want to see life from their own perspective and are often intolerant of others. To be in control of their view point is necessary for them to feel safe.
Are you limiting yourself and your relationships through non-acceptance of others beliefs?
I suggest that you contemplate the above and ponder on where you are on your journey in life.
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