Three key truths
I deserve to be here.
I deserve to be heard.
I deserve to be happy.
I’ve struggled with each element during various stages of my life but have come to realise the one vital ingredient which brings me ‘home’ to myself is LOVE – love for you, love for me, and love of life. I am grateful every day for each new day. I take nothing and no one for granted. I’ve been blessed with a life I will make count – I know I will leave footprints of love long after my lifetime. I also know I owe it to myself to truly savour and enjoy this gift of life I have been blessed with. I no longer choose suffering or martyrdom over self care and joy. I have free will and more importantly, my neuroscience studies have taught me I have ‘free won’t’.
We always have choices regarding how we respond to life and it’s many twists, turns and challenges. As I’ve said before: we are not defined by what happens to us. It’s how we respond that counts! Pain is inevitable (it’s how we get to learn, stretch and grow). Suffering is optional. Growth is intentional.
It is vitally important for our future to nurture compassion for ourselves, the mistakes we’ve made as we were learning about life, and forgiveness for the person we were in the past. Let’s be grateful for all that we have learned and all that we are today. This act is a good step forward toward a more peace filled and happy future. You can open new doors for tomorrow with your grateful thoughts today. When we start acting like life is a blessing, it starts feeling like one.
“However long the night, the dawn will break.” Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried. Grief is brutally painful. Grief does not only occur when someone dies. When relationships fall apart, you grieve. When opportunities are shattered, you grieve. When illnesses wreck you, you grieve. Losing a child cannot be fixed. Being diagnosed with a debilitating illness cannot be fixed. Facing the betrayal of your closest confidante cannot be fixed. These things can only be carried. Be kind and be gentle. Honour the healing process of grieving and know the sun will rise again with each new day.
Retreat and reflect
There are times in life when you need to ‘retreat’ in order to advance. These are periods of time where solitude and reflection allow for deeper truth and wisdom to emerge. It’s only when we disconnect from all the ‘noise’, busyness, chaos, needs of others and stories that we tune INto an inner guidance system where our answers lie. You already know what to do – especially if you are stalling, hesitating, doubting your way forward. This is the ideal time to forge some ‘time out’ to tune IN.
What you seek is seeking you. Joy, happiness, certainty, love, inner calm and peace are all possible when you decide to BE this way in your own life. We all have choice as to how we respond to every circumstance – some will trigger stronger emotional charge than others. Even in these situations, you can refocus and breathe your way into a calmer and peaceful state so that your mind can clearly access what you need and thoughtfully respond. May love be your guide.
Josie Thomson www.josiethomson.com